While fisting still holds quite a stigma, it’s really not as violent or undesirable as you may think. In fact, it’s something that brings a lot of pleasure to couples worldwide.
If you’re unfamiliar with the term, the act of fisting is when a fist is placed inside the vagina or anus with one’s fingers either clenched or straight. Sounds fairly straightforward. But there’s actually a proper technique to follow in order to create a satisfying and exciting experience.
And while fisting is a physical adventure, it also plays a big mental role for those interested in giving it a go. It’s a way to push boundaries and to diverge from the social norms of sex. For some, the idea alone is enticing, causing peaked interest and lust.
How to Prepare Yourself for Fisting
Step One: Lube
Which ever orifice you’re going for, lube is essential. It’s like the bread and butter of fisting, shall we say. Find the brand that works for you…and get a lot of it, because you’ll definitely need it.
Step Two: Training
Especially for those engaging in anal fisting, training is absolutely key. Accept the fact that you cannot merely fist someone’s ass successfully on the first try.
You can train by using various toys. Long ones that get smaller in size as it goes up in length is the perfect toy to try, as you can start off small and slowly but surely, work your way to the bottom of it.
Most importantly, don’t rush! You want to feel some stretching but no pain.
Step Three: Practice Makes Perfect
Once you feel comfortable with using your toy – one that resembles the size of a fist, it’s time to practice with a partner. This should be someone you trust, as it really is an intimate experience that involves a lot of respect and patience.
The How-To Guide for those Fisting Their Partner
To start off, playing with your partner sensually beforehand is a great way to make them feel more comfortable and relaxed. Touch the area you’re planning fisting in a pleasurable and sensual way. When your partner feels ready, make sure to have lube on-hand.
The Basics
Start with one finger, adding one more when the time is right. Continue doing this until you have four fingers inside of your partner.
Then, you’re going to place your thumb in the middle of your palm so that it’s pointing towards your middle finger, and your index and pinkie finger will follow to the centre too.
Once you’ve got this position down, you can slowly bring your four fingers down to create a fist.
Twists and Turns:
Once you’ve successfully created a fist, you can experiment with different techniques. You could twist your wrist in different styles and directions which will create different sensations.
Then, when play time is over, you’re going to want to remove your fist even slower than when you entered. Adding lube and playing with the surrounding area is a great way to reduce pain or discomfort.
Additional Tips:
- For the one doing the fisting, be sure to have neatly trimmed and clean nails. This is not only to create a more pleasurable experience for the receiver, but also minimises the risks of any STI’s.
Alternatively, your partner can opt to wear a latex glove if they feel more comfortable in doing so, and it also creates a smoothness for those getting fisted.
- If you’re giving anal fisting a go, you could douche beforehand if you feel that will give you more reassurance during your play time. And whether you choose to do so or not, preparing your body 30 minutes beforehand by using a butt plug and lube is never a bad idea.
Remember: It’s not a competition to see how far you can go. So if you’re the one getting fisted and you feel uncomfortable – relay it to your partner who should then stop. This is also a reason why trust, respect, and mutual consent is essential.
Ready to give fisting a go? It’s definitely something worth exploring, and has the ability to bring tons of pleasure and excitement. So, if not – why not?
Article by:
Helena at JOUJOU
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