Beginners Guide to Exhibitionism

We’ve become a world of observers, loving to watch and be watched. Cameras on every corner and in every store, new television reality shows every week. It isn't a surprise then that exhibitionism and voyeurism are kinks on the rise!

Exhibitionism is getting off on being watched, and voyeurism is the watching. Both pair well with other kinks - and with one another! It’s very important that you stay mindful of safety and legality while engaged in either; the excitement comes from possibly being caught in the act or being highly suggestive while in public, but it should never be without consent. These particular kinks are more about an audience than they are about specific behaviours or pleasures, so you may wonder what toys mix well - there are plenty!

 

First, consider simple bondage rope. A simple restraint mechanism, it can make the public sex play more risqué because one or both partners lack the control to move away or cover themselves if someone happens along. This Fetish Fantasy Bondage Rope is long enough to do basic ties as well as more complex Shibari style body nets. It can turn you from an exhibit into a work of art within a few knots!

 

If you're feeling the exhibitionism vibe and love the risk of getting caught, the Lyla will follow you anywhere - including the pool. This toy is controlled with a discreet remote so the fun can easily be brought into public. Worn by the male or female, the control is handed over to a partner (or even just kept to yourself) to make every moment a surprise. You don't even have to be next to your partner for this toy to work; in fact it works up to three times the distance of other wireless toys! Imagine your partner far away from you but watching as the Lyla gets turned on, while you have to keep a straight face and contain your pleasure while strangers pass.

 

Now we’re going to talk about my personal favourite, a toy with limitless voyeuristic and exhibitionist possibilities. You NEED to purchase this toy right now! Fascinated by the idea of webcams and strangers watching? We’ll do one better than watching sex. Technicalities first, the Svakom Siime Eye Vibrator has six different modes to test out and is 100% waterproof meaning bathtime can be a joy as well. But the toy is perfect for the voyeuristic person because it also has a video camera in the tip, allowing everything to be recorded. When we say everything? We mean EVERYTHING. Wireless to allow more motion for the user, it can automatically save and upload videos or photos to approved devices. Use it with your wifi to upload to Skype for a partner or your favourite webcam sites for a larger audience.

 

How strong is your urge for exhibitionism? Do you like the rush of almost getting caught or do you want to ensure you're seen? The Scandal Collar and Leash set is great for using out in public, sure to be seen but not arrested for public sex acts or nudity! Perfect for combining exhibitionism with other kinks like sub/dom, pet play, or humiliation, you can show that you're in control or being controlled. Walk your partner, or him or her up to a railing outside of a store while you run in on an errand, forcing them to be stared at as well. It also works for light BDSM and would be a great pairing with the Bondage Rope or Lyla as well!