When you think of using sex toys during play time, what do you think of? Oftentimes, the first thing that pops in your mind is female sex toys, right? Well we’re here to tell you that it’s not just female sex toys that are entirely erotic to achieve sexual pleasure. 

There are actually an array of interesting and pleasurable items on the male sex toy market available to use during partnered fun that’ll increase bliss in your sex life for both partners. 

And no, using male sex toys isn’t absurd and no, using them doesn’t make penis owners any less of a man or any less heterosexual. 

Discover the Pleasure of Partnered Play with Male Sex Toys

And so, you’re here because you are intrigued about incorporating male sex toys into partnered play. No matter your gender, there’s a lot to learn. But don’t worry, it’s a fun kind of learning. 

You’ll surely walk away with some sexy knowledge that’ll either float your boat and inspire you to want to try new things, or, at the very least, leave you with something interesting to share on a rainy day.

Today, we’ll be talking about:

• Different types of male sex toys

• How to introduce male sex toys to a partner

• Tips to incorporate male sex toys into play time 

• Benefits of using male sex toys

• Product recommendations

Let’s get started… 

Types of Male Sex Toys Suited for Partnered Play

In this list, we’re going to discuss toys that can be used for the penis and for anal pleasure. And while some of them are completely incredible to use solo, they’re tons of fun to use during partnered play too.

Strokers and Sleeves

A penis stroker or sleeve is a male sex toy used to enhance masturbation. It’s a toy that one inserts their penis into in order to mimic the feeling of a vagina/anus/or mouth. 

Now you may be asking why one would use this kind of toy during partnered play. For one, it’s just another way to incorporate stimulation. One’s partner could use it on them whilst kissing or giving attention to another part of their body. Or, a penis owner could use it on themselves whilst giving their partner pleasure. 

A stroker or sleeve could vibrate, have different patterns inside the sleeve to give off different kinds of stimulation, or be basic without any bells or whistles, yet offers a tight stimulation for an extra kind of sexual pleasure.

Prostate Massagers

A prostate massager, you guessed it, massages the prostate. The prostate is a walnut-sized gland found below the bladder and in front of the rectum in penis owners. So, how is it found? Via the anus. That means that something needs to enter ‘the back door’ in order for the prostate to be stimulated. This can be done with a finger(s) or a prostate sex toy.

Why use a prostate massager anal toy? When the prostate is stimulated, it can lead to a full-body orgasm. Many have described it as being much more intense and more satisfying than a penile orgasm. And because a prostate massager has been designed in such a way that it stimulates the prostate with exact precision (better than a finger), it is surely the best option when seeking a prostate orgasm. 

That, plus a prostate massager anal sex toy often comes with vibration settings which adds an extra layer of sexual pleasure. 

Vibrating Rings

A vibrating ring, otherwise known as a cock ring, is a fun male sex toy for two reasons. One, it treats both partners to extra stimulation during penetrative sex. Some cock rings come with extra add-ons that can stimulate the perineum and/or the clitoris, which can really seal the deal for many. 

Another reason why vibrating rings are great is that they allow the penis to be harder and last longer during intimacy, boosting your sex life. This is especially useful for penis owners with erectile dysfunction (ED). ED aside however, lasting longer in bed, and having a harder erection, can be an added bonus during partnered play.

How to Introduce Male Sex Toys to a Partner

For penis owners, it could be a little bit tricky when talking about introducing male sex toys into the bedroom. 

As Sexologist, Cam Fraser says: “There's this fear around exploring a little bit more with toys if you're a guy because you're kind of like, ‘what if my mates find out?’”.

But there’s a whole lot of pleasure to be had if one goes about it the right way. 

Breaking Taboos and Open Communication

“There's a lot of these layered fears and secrets and taboos around male sex toys that really tend to hinder guys from exploring and using one,” says Cam.

In that regard, he suggested having a candid, open and honest conversation with your partner before going out and buying any kind of male sex toy. He says;

“Before you start whipping out any sex toys with your partner it can be really beneficial to have a bit of a conversation, like ‘Hey I’m really enjoying the pleasure we’re having, I’m really enjoying the sex we’re having, I just wanna add in a little bit more. I think we can explore a little bit more together.’”

He continued to say;

“Keeping it really positively framed, keeping it pleasure-oriented and positive, and making this suggestion like ‘hey why don’t we try this?’ or ‘would you like to try this with me?’”

Cam adds that it’s the stigma that really gets in the way of experiencing a whole lot of pleasure.

Despite the stigma however, there is some good news. And that is, the interest in male sex toys doubled in the year 2021 as opposed to 2020. 

Understanding and Sharing Preferences

As well as having open communication, it’s of course important that both partners are on-board when it comes to using male sex toys. In this way, talking about them in such a way that both understand what they are and how they’re used is important. 

This could actually be a fun activity for your sex life. You may want to spend some time looking up different male sex toys online, reading reviews, or watching various videos about different brands and testimonials together to see if you fancy any of the toys. 

Then, it’s also important to decide whether the stimulation offered is something that both of you would be interested in. Truthfully, it’s very common for a lot of heterosexual penis owners to not want to try any kind of anal stimulation, so it may not be their preference to go for a prostate massager, for example. And for vagina owners, they may feel weird to use a stroker on their partner. They may want to do it themselves. 

In this regard, it’s really about both partners having the same shared preferences and being completely comfortable with their choice in male sex toys.

Tips for Incorporating Male Sex Toys Into Intimacy

With the tips given above, which are useful when it comes to preparing for male sex toys use during partnered play, there are some more things to consider. That is, the ways in which to enjoy the experience during play time.

Creating a Comfortable and Consensual Environment

For one, consent is key. And consent is required no matter what your relationship status. This means that your decisions must be made without any pressure, and that you can change your mind at any time—even in the middle of a sexual act.

Taking that one step further, comfort is a great way to enhance the experience, making sure that both partners feel safe and relaxed. These positive emotions make it more possible to dive deeper into intimacy and to enjoy sexual pleasure.

To create a more comfortable space, you could use warm lighting such as candles or LED bulbs, incorporate calming colours and textures, enjoy the scents of aromatherapy, and/or play music that enhances the mood.

Experimenting With Different Scenarios

Another way to spice things up in the bedroom would be to experiment with different scenarios. This doesn’t have to be too extreme. It could be as simple as dressing up in a different way for intimacy. Or it could be touching on aspects of role play. 

There are so many different role play scenarios that could go hand-in-hand with your newly introduced male sex toys. For example, playing doctor and nurse with your prostate massager, or age play with the use of a cock ring. Perhaps you could even do a bit of dominant-submissive play with the use of a sleeve or stroker. The possibilities are almost endless.

Benefits of Using Male Sex Toys in Partnered Play

So, the big question now is: are there any benefits of using male sex toys with a partner? There are! 

To name two; the enhancement of intimacy and pleasure, and the fostering of deeper connections. How so?

Enhancing Intimacy and Pleasure

When you do something new with your partner, passion can be reignited. And when male sex toys are introduced into the mix, a pathway is created to explore not only individual sexual preferences, but also a partner’s. 

Fostering Deeper Connection

Another way in which pleasure is increased when new things are experienced (and enjoyed!) is the fact that positive sexual activity can elevate oxytocin levels, which is the ‘love’ hormone. This hormone fosters a closer connection and potentially builds a stronger bond between partners.

Product Recommendations

With all of these tips and recommendations, there’s surely a male sex toy that catches your eye. And as they say, one should always try everything at least once!