While ball gags may seem intimidating, they’re actually an excellent little pleasure product to help you get started on your BDSM journey. Or, if you’re already indulging, they add a sense of erotic bliss to your sessions. We adore ball gags because not only are they small enough to fit into your pocket, but they’re perfect for all kinds of fantasy play.
And so, we’re dedicating today to beginners getting started with ball gags. Everything from how to use them, the benefits to using them, different types of ball gags, ball gag safety, and different materials used, you’ll be able to make an informed decision and, if you fancy, get started with these delicious toys in no time.
As we mentioned, there are a ton of benefits to using a ball gag with your partner. And this is true whether you’re a newbie or you’re an experienced BDSM enthusiast.
Some benefits of ball gags include:
- Using them as a way to reinforce your dominant/submissive relationship
- It allows the wearer to feel free to moan and groan as much as they’d like during a scene, as they act as silencers
- They prompt the wearer to breathe through their nose which can create heavy panting
- They’re visually erotic
- They add an extra lustre of eroticism during some forms of role play, such as pony play
Knowing this, perhaps we’re jumping the gun a bit! Perhaps you’re still unsure of what a ball gag actually is! So, let us get into the nitty gritty of ball gags!
What is a Ball Gag?
A ball gag is a device that’s worn in the mouth, behind the teeth, and has straps that run through the center of the ball then wrapped around the wearer’s head to stay in place. The ball itself usually has holes in it, and is made from materials that add to comfort.
Ball gags are used in such a way that the wearer will be unable to speak, but can still be heard. In this way, they may let out some moans, grunts, and even a bit of drool. This can further fuel arousal for both partners, and bring about an even stronger sense of dominance and submission.
Why is a Ball Gag Used Sexually?
Ball gags are used sexually because some individuals love the idea of physical restraint, whether it’s instilling it on others or experiencing it themselves. And because they’re so easy to use, and are petite in size, it’s a favourite for many who enjoy this kind of play.
Another reason why ball gags are sexually satisfying is because it really creates this power shift. It’s a dynamic where the wearer simply has to listen without the ability to verbally speak, and the dominant is able to feel in complete control, which is a huge turn on for some.
Additionally, ball gags are entirely erotic for some as it has the ability to transform an individual into an object. “Some people find that kind of depersonalisation appealing in BDSM play because it helps to take them out of their head and lets them be more in the moment,” says Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist.
Then there’s also the aspect of humiliation. The lack of being able to speak, the drooling, and the strange facial expressions could make the wearer feel humiliated, and this can be a big turn on for some. Not to mention the fact that, if worn in a certain way or for a certain period of time, it could cause pain to the wearer, who may have a kink of fetish for this kind of sensation.
And when it comes to other sexual acts, wearing a ball gag essentially renders the wearer unable to perform in a mutual manner, which again would change the dynamic between the dominant and submissive. It’ll also allow for the enhancement of other sensations.
What Are Ball Gags Made of?
Ball gags are usually made of rubber, silicone, or plastic. Smaller silicone may be the best material to use for beginners, as it is more comfortable for the wearer without having them open their mouth or jaw too much.
Silicone is arguably the most popular kind of ball gag material for newbies and beginners. And while rubber and plastic ball gags are perfectly fine to use too, silicone tends to last longer and is easier to clean.
How to Use a Ball Gag Safely?
Ball gags are a kinky treat to enjoy with a partner, but using them does require caution and care. This is because most ball gags hinder the wearer from being able to breathe through their mouth, which can be physically and mentally uncomfortable.
For that reason, going slowly, having mutual trust and a safe action (such as grabbing or dropping something) is the best way to try ball gags for the first time. We say safe action, not safe word, because well, the wearer’s speech is almost always unintelligible.
Additionally, if the wearer suffers from allergies or has a blocked or stuffy nose, this too will create discomfort. It’s advised to leave the ball gags behind during a session if one has a blocked, stuffy, or runny nose. There is a loophole however…
There are some ball gags that give the wearer the ability to breathe through their mouth. These types of ball gags have holes in the ball, which allow air to pass through them. Truthfully however, many find the aspect of being unable to breathe through the mouth quite a turn on.
Another aspect that’s crucial when it comes to ball gag safety is the fact that the wearer should never be left alone. Partners need to stay together to ensure that both are comfortable, safe, and consensually enjoying a session.
Recommended Ball Gags to Get Started
California Exotics Tickle Me Pink Ball Gag
There’s nothing intimidating about the California Exotics Tickle me Pink Ball Gag, which is sparkling with erotica. This is the perfect ball gag for beginners, allowing users to experiment with restraint or those who want something stylish to play with. It’s got a glittery design, a plush PU ball, and designer vegan leather straps, making it sexy and trendy.
Fetish Fantasy Limited Edition Breathable Ball Gag
Try something daring and exciting with Fetish Fantasy, a brand that has a slew of enticing and BDSM-inspired bits and pieces. Their Breathable Ball Gag has a non-toxic and firm rubber ball, measuring at 1.6” diameter, and is adjustable at a length of 10” to find the perfect fit with your play partner.
Fetish Fantasy Limited Edition Beginners Ball Gag
Communicate without saying a word with the Fetish Fantasy Beginners Ball Gag. This firm rubber gag is a sensual piece of erotica that newbies to the scene can play with. It has a nylon strap for comfort, and will create the ultimate sexual chemistry between lovers.
Fetish Fantasy Ball Gag Training System
Introducing what is quite possibly the ultimate starter kit for ball gag beginners, the Fetish Fantasy Ball Gag Training System. It comes with three interchangeable breathable gags in sizes small, medium, and large, one adjustable vinyl head strap, holes for easy breathing, and a free satin love mask for that extra bit of bondage play. You’ll love this set as it will allow you to work your way up from mild to more intense as you continue on your journey, and it gives you the ultimate freedom to enjoy your preferred kind of stimulation when you crave it.
California Exotics Scandal Wide Open Mouth Gag
For some seriously sensual scandal, the Scandal Wide Open Mouth Gag from California Exotics is your play time super star. It comes with two interchangeable rings, both of which are non-tarnishing and made of nickel-free iron. This sweet treat gives the wearer the feeling of soft plush against their skin, while the exterior is made of designer fabric. It’s bold, it’s adventurous, and oh so indulgent.
Fetish Fantasy Limited Edition Spider Gag
Go big or go home! The Fetish Fantasy Limited Edition Spider Gag is wider than wide, erotically-charged, and brimming with kinky energy. It’s made of sturdy metal with a steel ring with four curved metal “legs” attached to the ring. This allows you to put whatever you wish into the wearer’s mouth! It also has a vinyl strap that buckles at the back to keep it firmly in place, and has the ability to fit almost anyone.
So, newbies! Have you found a ball gag that you’re itching to try? Whether you’re leaning towards a training set, a spider gag, a more breathable gag, or even one that prompts its wearer to be open wide, we’re sure that you’ll have all kinds of luscious and passionate trysts!
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